Guestbook
Even though I had not spoken with either Arnie or Helga for a very long time... they were part of my life for 13 years .. and I have thought about the entire Doery family often..
Arnie was a man with a very large heart. He loved his family and his friends with passion. He was (as was the whole family) very influential in the person I am today. He and Helga showed me a lot about life .. and living it to its fullest.
He had a great sense of humor and loved to laugh and smile.
I will always remember him for his love of life and the people in it.
I'm sure Arnie touched and affected a lot of people in the course of his life.
He will be missed
Posted by: Mary lou Emerson - Easton, PA - Former daughter in law Oct 09, 2010
How I miss my my dear Dad;
If I could write a story
It would be the greatest ever told
Of a kind a loving father
Who had a heart of gold
I will remember all he taught me
I'm hurt but won't be sad
because he'll send me down the answers
And he'll always be MY DAD
I miss you so much, gone too soon.
Life goes on for the rest of us… “something is missing, you are” We all miss you every day. Your son, Bruce
Contributed by Bruce Doery (My dear Dad) on August 12, 2011
Yahrzeit (Jahr Zeit) August 11th, 2011
A moment in time, a blink of an eye…and time stood still.
The world trembled and stopped for one of us. Breath stood still for many of us that knew the man called Arnie Doery.
A man, a husband and a father. A son himself, holding the task placed in his care by his father before him in the tradition and succession of a family business.
He was a provider, a teacher and a member of various associations.
A pioneer at times, thinking outside the box and a mover and shaker.
But, also, a friend and fun playmate filling his “bucket list” along the way.
He became a pilot and a certified scuba diver, a water and snow skier and a student of golf. And how can we forget his passion for the sea – fishing for big-game like tuna and shark? Above all, laughter was his guide…like angel-dust.
“a good day” he would say, “was to make someone smile”. I did not need a cell to catch up – just follow the crowd and laughter. For me, the tapestry of life has changed forever. Our joined family and friends have now become my wind under my wings.
I hold comfort in knowing the ways his spirit lives on and shines through all that knew the man that made a difference.
His partner in life;
Helga
Message to my beloved father; Life is so busy for all of us, yet not a day goes by without our loving thoughts for you dad. We miss you so very much, but know that you are with each of us, in our hearts, our memories that you left for us.
Thank you for giving so much of yourself to us. As you’ve said so much in life, it rings true in your passing, Life goes on for the rest of us…I added this “something is missing, you are” We all miss you every day. Your son, Bruce, and Michelle.
Today was a very special day. Everyone, Mom, Me, Michelle, Jordan, Brianna, close lifelong friends and family came to show how much you are missed. We love and miss you! As you say...
Life goes on for the rest, but something is missing, you are.
Contributed by Bruce Doery (My Dad) on December 20, 2010
My message to Arnie
Dear Arnie,
Where did you go? I was planning on seeing you soon. You got out of seeing me last time by taking on a seizure and almost leaving us then. I didn’t take it personally, but now? It’s never been said that you attempt anything half heartedly. This seems a bit extreme. Even for you.
I wish I could have told you these things in person but I’m sure my words will find their way to you. While I am sad beyond words for not being able to enjoy your company again in person – I can’t help but smile EVERY time I think of you. I’ve learned a great many things from growing up around and in your presence. At the top of the list is “How to enjoy life”. You left us prematurely based on time but not based on how high you filled your cup. Your smile and energy for life was infectious and because you still make me smile – it continues. I admired it and learned that if I only had a fraction of it that I’d be happy beyond my expectations. Thank you.
I also learned from you that “you take care of what needs to be taken care of!” There never seemed to be a task too difficult for you to tackle. You spoke your mind and tackled everything head on. Whenever I find myself avoiding the difficult tasks in life I think of you and it pushes me through.
Arnie, thank you for being a great role model in so many ways. I truly miss you. Even so, I’m still smiling.
Love Always
Your brother (in-law)
Michael
Contributed by Mike Simmons (Brother (in-law)) on December 15, 2010
Arnie 18 Sept 2010 Yom Kippur
Today, Yom Kippur 5771 (2010), we remember our loved ones.
May God remember the soul of Arnie Doery, my dear lifelong friend, who has gone prematurely to the eternal home. In loving memory I pledge to help perpetuate ideals important to Arnie and mankind. Through such deeds, and through prayer and memory, is his soul bound up in the bond of life. May these moments of meditation link me more strongly to Arnie’s memory. May Arnie rest eternal in dignity and peace. Boy do I miss my Arnie. Amend.
Contributed by Joseph Lipsky (Lifelong friend) on September 18, 2010
My husband and Arnie were friends since their early teens. I married into this relationship and for so many good years not only did I benefit from knowing him, but my children and his have been friends since they were infants sharing a crib. We’ve had our ups and downs, which ended up strengthening our bonds. He was a big part of our lives even though distance separated us. When we were together it was as if we were never apart and we all would just talk for hours. He will be missed. There is a hole in our hearts that cannot be filled. Eternal Love – (and pound cake) Barbara Lipsky
Contributed by Joseph Lipsky (Extended Family) on September 15, 2010
I will never walk alone.
He is and stands all around me. The breath I take is shared by him. The gentle breeze is his kiss on my cheek. Today, while taking my morning coffee, three hummingbirds were sent to me to day "Good morning", The earth smells rich and fertile with a scent of roses and jasmine.
Life is now in session - are you present? .... Remains his motto and creed .... Knowing Arnie is making the world a better place. Take breath, Helga
Arnie...even though we only knew each other for a too short time, you will always have a special place in my heart. I miss your sparkling smile and your wise words of advice. I am so thankful that I knew you. Love always, Ruth
FATHER - HUSBAND - GRANDFATHER - FRIEND
My dear dad, you were taken from us too early.
Your bucket list was full. Always in our hearts.
Love and miss you deeply.
- Bruce, Michelle, Jordan and Brianna
Contributed by Bruce Doery (My Dear Father) on August 25, 2010
Arnie was the first person we met in Cypress Pointe, a single family section of Naples Heritage. We also met his buddy, a lovable cairn terrier named Murphy and his wonderful wife, Helga. We knew immediately that we would be good friends with these neighbors two doors away.
Arnie started an on-going "institution" when in 1999 he created a golf group of neighborhood men soon known as the Romeos (Retired Old Men Eating Out). They played eighteen holes of golf each Friday at Naples Heritage, lunch following was obligatory even if golf was rained out. Arnie made all the pairings, all the tee times, and reservations for lunch until 2006 when he and Helga moved to Georgia. Through the years, some of the members died or moved away; but others gladly joined the group; so the Romeos still play golf weekly...with lunch obligatory. Romeos turned out to be Arnie's legacy to Cypress Pointe. He will always be remembered as the founder.
To watch Arnie and Murphy together was to watch the best relationship between a man and his dog. They truly understood each other. We'll always laughingly remember Arnie driving up and down Naples Heritage Drive in his golf cart with Murphy barking all the way. We knew our "neighborhood watch" was on the job. The good citizens of Cypress Pointe dubbed Arnie the Mayor.
Arnie was the go-to friend if you needed a hand, a tool or some good advice. He also had a great sense of humor. He was a contented man with a wife he adored and a dog the whole community adored.
MISSING ARNIE WILL ALWAYS BRING SORROW; REMEMBERING ARNIE WILL ALWAYS BRING JOY.
Nicki & Trab Trabilsy
Dear Helga,
Dominic and I were very sad to hear about Arnie. Arnie was the first person who made Dominic feel welcome here at Naples Heritage. Dominic went to the pro shop to see if anyone would play golf with him and met Arnie. Arnie invited him to play with the Romeos and soon Dominic was a member and made many new friends. He has always said he had Arnie to thank for finding such a great group of friends and golfers.
We both enjoyed the Romeo dinners every year when we would go to your house early to help set up for the great after party party. And will any Romeo ever forget the wonderful cruise we all took? Arnie's great organizational skills and love of people were responsible for so much fun and joy. He was also a great photographer, we still have the action golf photo Arnie took of Dominic displayed in the office.
I have two favorite "snapshots" of Arnie that will always hold a dear place in my heart. One is of Arnie and Murphy coming to visit in the golf cart. Those two were so happy to be together in that cart. The other is more recent. When we visited your home last month, Arnie took us on a tour. He showed us the first floor he had worked on so lovingly. He was so proud of the wonderful job he did. I remember telling Dominic that Arnie looked so happy, and the move seemed to be so right for him and you because you both seemed so rested and content.
Helga, I want you to know that everyone who knew Arnie here at Naples Heritage was upset to hear about what happened. He made a big impact and was a positive influence to many people, not just Dominic and myself. We will miss him very, very much.
Terry & Dominic
Arnie and I bumped into each other in 1953 when we were in Woodmere High School. A mutual Far Rockaway friend introduced us since I just moved to Hewlett, Long Island, New York and Arnie lived in Hewlett. We clicked and reminder close friends for the past 57 years.
During Arnie’s high school days Arnie gave his mother Bella, and his father Lou, major headaches as a the ring leader of many events that did not go without hitches and issues that his farther had to come to our rescue.
Also during this period, my father Julie, became a friend of Arnie’s father Lou and they lost many hairs together because of our teenage stunts.
After a short collage stay Arnie went into the Army.
When Arnie went overseas for his tour of duty and he encountered a fifteen year old girl who was already a young lady.
After Arnie completed his Army service and returned to the USA he realized he left the girl he wants to marry in Germany. Arnie returned to Germany and asked and got permission to marry the now sixteen year old young lady named Helga.
I will continue my tribute to Arnie over the next few days by adding to the above tribute.
